Prayer for my Daughter and her Dad

luvnlife · Lion Joined: 22 Feb 2007 Posts: 939 Location: US

Update:

He hung in there longer than medical professionals thought was physically possible. The Dr.'s and his brother thought perhaps he had some unfinished business and that is why he would not let go. They thought perhaps it had something to do with the way he had treated me during and after our marriage. My daughter asked if she could relay any messages from me that might help him to let go. I told her she could tell him that I did not wish him any pain or ill will, that I had let go of the past and I did not hate him or hold any grudge against him. I don't know if she told him this. I did not ask but several hours after I talked to her he did pass away.

I stayed for several days and mostly helped with my grandson and household duties so that my daughter could deal with the hospital, attorneys, the funeral home etc...

I was going to come home on Sunday but my daughter and his family all wanted me to go to the funeral. It was not my first choice because much of our marriage was not good and for the last decade or more since the divorce he had done everything he could to cause problems in the relationship between my daughter and myself. I did go to support my daughter and found that the family was happy to see me and still considered me part of the family. They held no grudges toward me. They understood a lot of what I endured during my marriage to him.

I watched a couple of home videos and remembered some of the good times we had before things went bad. I also remembered fondly some funny or nice things he did while we were married. The bad still outweighed the good but at least I was able to recall some good amongst the bad.

My daughter is going through a rough time and I am trying my best to be there for her. I told her night or day, I am there for her.

My current husband met me in UT and supported both me and my daughter through this. I have the best husband.

I remember thinking before I left the graveyard that he (my ex-husband) would not have liked me being there and coming to the realization that he no longer has the power to hurt me or negatively impact my relationship with my daughter.

I feel a weight lifted but I also feel conflicted because I truly did not wish him pain and did not wish for him to die but I still feel a release with his passing and so I am feeling confused and guilty because of this.

Luv

lone-traveler · Posted: Tue Mar 11, 2008 8:17 pm Post subject:

Hi Luv,
I've been thinking about you.

Nobby · Posted: Tue Mar 11, 2008 8:42 pm Post subject:

Hang in there Luv. it will get better with time.
I know I say this a lot, but "Our God is a healing God!"
You know! That We all Love You, "Don't You."
You have my prays.
LuvUluv,
Nobby

atoz · Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 5:42 am Post subject:

Plotinus · Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 9:17 am Post subject:

Sorry to hear about the rough time you and your daughter have had, luv. I'll be thinking about both of you and hoping for lots of good cheer in your future.

pastor2022 · Moderator Joined: 07 Dec 2006 Posts: 639

May God bring healing and comfort for all of you. May He, in His good time, bring all of you release from the past and into what He has for your future. I shall continue to pray for all of you. God bless.

luvnlife · Lion Joined: 22 Feb 2007 Posts: 939 Location: US

Thank you all. I appreciate your support.

Luv

friendlyvince · Tadpole Joined: 15 Feb 2008 Posts: 19 Location: Australia

Luv, Have been praying and may God continue to comfort and support you and your family. Vince.

luvnlife · Lion Joined: 22 Feb 2007 Posts: 939 Location: US

Thanks, Vince!

I appreciate that. Things have been pretty rough for her and pretty rough between the two of us lately. She is angry with me and I don't even know why. She didn't really say. She just yelled and swore at me in front of my very upset 9 year old and I ended up asking her to leave my house.

I called her the next day to see if she was OK. She hardly spoke to me and she has not called me since.

The whole incident came out of the blue. I did not yell or swear at her. I did ask her to calm down and not to yell at me and I did tell her she cannot talk to me the way she was talking to me.

It's weird. I am worried about her. I've spent most of her life worrying about her. I have made attempts to contact her. She doesn't want to talk to me and I don't know why or what she is angry about.

friendlyvince · Tadpole Joined: 15 Feb 2008 Posts: 19 Location: Australia

Hi Luv

It must be intriguing and concerning especially when you love her that much. But God is all knowing and powerful and he knows what is going on that we don't and will definitely sort things out when we trust in him. God has his own time: Be still and know that I am God.

Dear Lord I pray that you will continue to comfort our dear sister and resolve any issue with he daughter that is beyond human comprehension, and if need be, please heal the relationship with her daughter. You love her very much and let her have complete peace and trust in you, pray for everything around her that things will work out. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Vince