dating

Heavenly Home · Posted: Wed Oct 09, 2002 1:12 am Post subject: dating

i was just wondering what you all thought about dating.. like do you think that you should be with someone that is saved.. or do you think that it doesnt matter at all.. im just wondering.. i think i should only be dating guys that are saved.. whats your opinions?

Sara Jansky · Posted: Wed Oct 09, 2002 7:04 am Post subject: dating

The Bible tells us not to yolk ourselves with non-believers. It is very bad for your faith and your family. It never turns out good and you definately should not marry one. It is okay to have them as friends. Who else is gonna tell them about Jesus Although,I wouldn't trust them. The Bible says to trust no man.

I used to date non-believers. I dated one for three years. It is not good believe me. If you are interested in details as to why it was so bad you can e-mail me. My address is in my profile.

Oh, and I don't think that dating is the best way to go about it. I don't think that a man and a woman should put themselves in any situation where they would be tempted to do something they shouldn't. The Bible says we are to turn away from temptation, not walk right into it.

And I know some people think that sex outside of marriage is okay. They are wrong of course. The Bible says to avoid fornication let every man have a wife and every woman a husband. So, it is obvious that anything outside of that is fornicating, and the Bible says that is a no, no.

Some people think this is strict, that God is a kill joy. Not true, remember he invented sex. Also, he made us and knows how we work best and what is best for us.

There is an excellent book on dating. I wish I had read it sooner. It is called "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" written by Joshua Harris. You can probably find a copy at any Barnes and Noble. If not I think it is available at this site: www.multnomahbooks.com. It is great to see this kind of book from a guys perspective.

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changeup2010 · Posted: Wed Oct 09, 2002 7:51 am Post subject: dating

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Originally posted by Heavenly Home:
i was just wondering what you all thought about dating.. like do you think that you should be with someone that is saved.. or do you think that it doesnt matter at all.. im just wondering.. i think i should only be dating guys that are saved.. whats your opinions?

I would tend to agree with Sarajane here. The only thing that I might say different is, unless you think that person, or guy in your case, has an open heart toward God and Jesus. Not saying that he is saved necessarily, but that he has an open mind. If you think you can lead them to Christ, then I would try it, because they will understand where you are coming from on why you will and won't do certain things, sexually or not. Understand?

My wife and I were dating for a short period of time when she invited me to church. I went. Since I had an open mind toward things and her, it made our relationship a lot easier. Indirectly, she led me to Christ.

And let me tell you something else, and you need to listen to this if nothing else sinks in. The relationship that grows WITH Christ is undefinable. We grew to be great friends and now husband and wife, because we did not have the sexual side getting in the way of our discussion time together.

Not to ramble, but they say that the relationship between a man and a woman and Christ is a triangle. Christ at the top and the man and woman at the bottom. When you move the man and woman towards Christ, they invariably get closer together. Understand? It is a great ride, to have someone to talk to about Christ, that is that close to you.

Good Luck.

Sara Jansky · Posted: Wed Oct 09, 2002 1:46 pm Post subject: dating

Hey the triangle example. I have posted that somewhere before. It is a great example isn't it?

changeup2010 · Posted: Wed Oct 09, 2002 4:11 pm Post subject: dating

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Originally posted by Sara Jansky:
Hey the triangle example. I have posted that somewhere before. It is a great example isn't it?

I like it a lot, it helps with a lot of people.

Heavenly Home,
Did that post help any?

Have a good day, Scott

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changeup2010 · Posted: Wed Oct 09, 2002 4:14 pm Post subject: dating

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Originally posted by changeup2010:
I like it a lot, it helps with a lot of people.

Heavenly Home,
Did that post help any?

Sorry, SaraJansky, there is another out there named Sarajane. I had mistaken you for her. Sorry about that.

Have a good day, Scott

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changeup2010 · Posted: Wed Oct 09, 2002 4:16 pm Post subject: dating

Holy cow, I'm a moron. I hit the wrong button on the post to edit it. Look at me I'm stupid

Heavenly Home · Posted: Wed Oct 09, 2002 5:15 pm Post subject: dating

thanks guys..... i have never went out with non-believers...... and i knew that i shouldnt... i just wanted to see your opinions... its always good to get some encouraging... God Bless you all

Ron · Posted: Thu Oct 10, 2002 10:02 pm Post subject: dating

I may be alone on this one! I was a staunch atheist and firm evolutionist when my wife and I started dating. The pastor that married us agreed to do so but felt strongly that it was not in our best interest. I now have come to our wonderful Lord Jesus Christ in the past year and I think my wife helped me so very much along the way.
We used to debate the existance of God till late in the night. Nothing she ever said would make me change. And nothing I said weakened her faith one bit. There is a scripture about wives submit to your husbands and if they are not in the Lord that you may bring them to the Lord not by the Word but by conduct. She did not preach to me ever. She just held strong to her faith and by her conduct as a Christian her faith in God was evident.

We are now celebrating 18 years marriage and are closer than ever. We go to church together, do extensive bible study together and constantly pray and rejoice together!

I can not even imagine me coming to Christ without her. You see my feeling is God introduces us to folks for a reason. Lets remember who Jesus stayed with, harlots and sinners. He said the well are not in need of a doctor. I was in desperate need spiritually and I fully believe our loving God placed my wife with me to bring me from darkness to light.

It is said that 90% of Christians have no unbelievers as friends after coming to the Lord for 2 years. I don't think this is what we are supposed to be doing. Evangelize in His name and bring people to Him, that is our greatest task in this world as Christians.

That's just my personal story and thoughts. God Bless .

Zathrus · Posted: Fri Oct 11, 2002 3:45 pm Post subject: dating

That's really cool, Ron.
I've had more than one girl who was a fellow believer decide a relationship with me wouldn't work just because of theological differences (not saying they weren't right to do so - I really would prefer to find a like-minded believer too). I gotta hand it to your wife though, marrying a total non-believer, sticking with you all those years, and not losing hope.

I'm glad things have turned out the way they have for the two of you!

~Mindy~ · Tadpole Joined: 21 Aug 2002 Posts: 29

as one of you know, lol, i am dating a christian guy....it can really help you as this guy is..or it can hurt you...i've been down both roads and i would definatly reccomend a christian guy. they can really help you to grow spiritually
catch ya tonight nicole

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Magnum PI · Posted: Fri Nov 01, 2002 4:24 pm Post subject: dating

Would you listen to yourselves! Talk about blatant and utter discrimination! Just because someone doesn't blindly believe as you do you would reject them as a friend and/or a significant other?!?!?!

And you wonder why you people are called religious zealots and your religion is termed a cult!

All I can say is, it's your loss and not the other persons! For all you know (actually you wouldn't because you're too prejudiced to even find out), this other person could be the most altruistic, caring, thoughtful, open-minded (one who certainly wouldn't be as intollerant as you and hold your religious beliefs against you) and intelligent person you could ever possibily meet. Yet you'd throw that once in a lifetime opportunity to know someone like that out the window 'just because' they haven't found YOUR religion. How pathetic!

As for the rest of the nonsensical diatribes I just read in the previous posts I'm not even going to waste my time...and you wonder why I throw the (obviously valid and rightly used) term 'ignorance' around in this forum.

*sheesh*

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Nobby · Posted: Fri Nov 01, 2002 7:54 pm Post subject: dating

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Would you listen to yourselves! Talk about
blatant and utter discrimination! Just because someone doesn't blindly believe as you do you would reject them as a friend
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I don't know if I would have been as abrupt
as Magnum but I kind of agree with him. You don't believe in dating. If my loving wife hadn't dated me a non-believer I probably wouldn't be serving the lord today.
Sara you don't trust any non-believers??
I think I probably love the lord as much as anyone here & yet I have non-believing friends that I care very much for & would trust them with my life!
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[Quote] of Magnum
and/or a significant other?!?!?
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Be nice!

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And you wonder why you people are called religious zealots and your religion is termed a cult!
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Magnum as christians were not trying to push our beliefs on you, anymore than you are tring to push yours on us?
I agree that some Christian people try to push to hard & and if you don't believe their way you are wrong! To me thats not using God's word the way you should. Push to hard and you will lose them! Sara and others if I have offended you please forgive me!!
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Quote by magnum
All I can say is, it's your loss and not the other persons! For all you know (actually you wouldn't because you're too prejudiced to even find out), this other person could be the most altruistic, caring, thoughtful, open-minded (one who certainly wouldn't be as intollerant as you and hold your religious beliefs against you) and intelligent person you could ever possibily meet. Yet you'd throw that once in a lifetime opportunity to know someone like that out the window 'just because' they haven't found YOUR religion. How pathetic!
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I won't touch this one.
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[Q]by Magnum
As for the rest of the nonsensical diatribes I just read in the previous posts I'm not even going to waste my time...
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Ahh come on wast your time Mag!
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[Quote] by Magnum
and you wonder why I throw the (obviously valid and rightly used) term 'ignorance' around in this forum.
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Man do you ever throw it around! lol!
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[Quote] by Magnum
*sheesh*
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I second that!
Goodnight Magnum & all
God bless you one & all,
Nobby

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admin · Posted: Fri Nov 01, 2002 9:00 pm Post subject: dating

Hi Heavenly,
My fundamentalist Christian friends have always felt across the board that a Christian should only date a fellow Christian.

Their quote is something along the ideas of a "house divided" if a family is of mixed faiths. I'm sorry I don't know the scripture exactly.

Cybermonsters (Most Beloved Admin)

Magnum PI · Posted: Sat Nov 02, 2002 10:18 am Post subject: dating

quote:
Originally posted by admin:
Hi Heavenly,
My fundamentalist Christian friends have always felt across the board that a Christian should only date a fellow Christian.

Their quote is something along the ideas of a "house divided" if a family is of mixed faiths. I'm sorry I don't know the scripture exactly.

Cybermonsters (Most Beloved Admin)

"My fundamentalist brothers and sistas have always felt across the board that a black should only date a fellow black.

Their quote is something along the ideas of a "house divided" if a family is of mixed races."

OR

"My fundamentalist white supremists have always felt across the board that a white should only date a fellow white.

Their quote is something along the ideas of a "house and country divided" if a family is of mixed races."

OR

"My fundamentalist Judaists have always felt across the board that a Jew should only date a fellow Jew.

Their quote is something along the ideas of a "house divided" if a family is of mixed races and religion."

I can go on if you like, or do you see the absurdity in such dogma!

MPI

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