Homosexuality and Insest

Ineedanswers · Newbie Alert Joined: 29 Mar 2005 Posts: 1

This will probably be the only Thread I make and or reponde to because of the subject matter.

Situation: about 10 years ago, my brother and I had sex, this accured 3 times, until about 7 years ago.

Since then my conscience has very burdened with guilt. This has been a subject that I am now only bringing out, here, though some people I know, know that I have a bi-curious state. Both the act and the interest in homosexuality have lead me to be depressed for a long time, and the idea that I evry commited this sin, burns.

My question is this: I have given up that life style, and want to be stronger in Christ, yet I feel that I am condemned for my history. What does it mean to repent? I have asked the Lord for forgiveness, and will soon be asking my brother for his. The only thing I don't want is for my mother to know that this ever happened, because I don't think she would understand.

RevJP · Moderator Joined: 18 Apr 2003 Posts: 6901 Location: USA

FFT · Posted: Tue Mar 29, 2005 8:24 pm Post subject:

First, confess. This would seem to be the logical thing to do, although I do not know which sect of Christianity you adhere to.

Second, while many here may feel otherwise, acts/interests of/in homosexuality do not constitute sinning. However, this is a debate best made its own topic. However, the fact that this occured with your brother is definitely something you should feel guilty about. The fact that you do actually want forgiveness would seem to be a step in the right direction.

Also, please don't pussyfoot about with the "bi-curious" nonsense. If you only desire to have sex with women, you are heterosexual. If you only desire to have sex with men, you are homosexual. If you desire to have sex with both men and women, you are bisexual. "Bi-curious" is like "agnostic." It's nothing but repugnant fence-sitting.

Da Blonde Bombshell · Posted: Sat May 07, 2005 8:12 pm Post subject:

Ineedanswers, are you male?

Incestuous experiences in childhood are not necessarily what "makes" one to be of one sexual orientation or another.

"Playing Doctor" and the like are common childhood experiences of people of all orientations. You do not say the ages of both of you or if you feel exploitation was involved. Whatever, this is nothing to beat yourself up about.
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Reverend Swaggart · Tadpole Joined: 14 Jul 2005 Posts: 16

Son, it would have been just as sinful if you had the relationship with your sister, or mother, but all sins are forgiven by the Lord. Just don't do it again.